I’ve been informally doing goals all my life, and more formally since I started athletics and working in sales…so very young. Part of me is “over it”, and part of me totally understands… sometimes it is required and/or really beneficial.
I find however, it is ONLY beneficial if you are *already truly internally motivated towards the things you will be cultivating on and from that list. Otherwise, it’s possibly rhetoric, and you are bound to under-achieve what you listed, or feel underwhelmed by your results.
I like to ponder my own assessment formula first:
what worked this past year, and why?
what didn’t work, and why?
what relationships supported me well, and I them?
what relationships need work, and how?
are there any relationships that need to be scaled back?
what makes my soul absolutely SING? (books, serving others, people, activities…)
am I growing positively as a person?
if so, how am I growing?
what area deserves the most growth/work this next year? (spiritual, financial, physical, etc)
what is my THEME for 2014? (Giving. Risk. Professionalism. Marketing. etc)
Those are pretty simple to answer. Answer them Honestly for real results.
SO…
This is a great thing to ask your-real-self before goal setting.
We can all sit down and make lists if we need to. You can make them all day long.
But what is driving us? What is fueling us? What is in the way? These are good foundational questions, to make sure our goals are really where we want and NEED to go, and not where others think we should go (co-dependents, people pleasers??) or where we have assumed we should go…for some reason.
*What do you REALLY want, what is your soul calling you to do… and how do you need to operate in every aspect of your life to achieve that?
If you were choosing from passion and vision vs. fear and insecurity, what would you go after in 2014? Let us begin!
Many Blessings,
sheli G
CILC | CMC | CEBC www.shelig.com International Speaker
Master Certified Business Coach
World Changer Leadership & Life Mastery Coach
“It’s time to embrace the World Changer in YOU!” ~sheli G
This is the most simple answer, to a common challenge for many leaders. I learned this one in my twenties, both in management positions, and in owning my first business.
You cannot control others. Period.
Yes, you can nag them. Write them up. Fire them perhaps. Then start all over again. But at the end of the day, THEY CHOOSE. They decide if they are in or out. They decide if the organization’s message resonates enough with them to invest at a high level. They choose how hard, long and creatively they will work.
In my consultations with organizations, leaders and teams, I find that often Team Leaders will spin with frothy frustration over control tug-of-wars with their teams. Exhausting. Let’s get real; People don’t go to work because they want you to be proud of them. It’s not THEIR company or vision. (this is important for CEO’s who think everyone should think like them- it ain’t gonna happen) And they don’t care about their managers bonus, generally speaking. They are there for some internal and/or external reason of their own. Personal fulfillment. Bills to pay. This is the field they got a degree in. Or this is a step in the direction they are headed. Or because they love their job. Or they love the type of clients your company attracts… But they are not there to fulfill your ambitions as a team leader, or company owner/founder. Ambitions like: status, numbers, money, ego, power, market position, retirement, moving up the ladder etc.
That’s OK that they are there for themselves. You are there for yourself as well. It’s your dream, vision, calling or whatever. So- like your team, you are all there for personal reasons.
When I facilitate workshops, the same elements apply.
People show up. They show up for a reason. Those reasons differ. What they will all individually bring to the room dynamic is unique. What they will create, and take away from that space is unique! We aren’t robots, right? So then my job is NOT to control them, but rather to inspire them. (this is way more fun and NOT exhausting!)
SO- I create a safe, premium environment for the participants to do whatever work they came to do. But the majority of what I do, I create during the live process, with the team I am working with. I have my intentions beforehand of what I am hired to accomplish. And, how I get there totally depends on the participants! I move from my list of planned exercises, and adapt them to match the dynamics of the particular individuals or team. I base this on: their strengths, their attitudes, the time frame, the obstacles, the personalities, the intention of that particular workshop, and the biggest factor: What they would like to create or take away our time together. *I have them share this, early on in our sessions.
What do they want to create?
What THEIR intention is. That is their hot button, and how you can understand them. What motivates THEM? Remember, It may be very different from what motivates you. That’s OK, as long as they ARE motivated, right? When you understand them, you can then be an inspiration to help them fulfill that goal. Inspired individuals, teams and volunteers are happier and more fulfilled. Happier more fulfilled people produce more, produce quality, last longer, and make your life as a leader better. But it doesn’t come from them having a copy of their job description. It doesn’t come from your companies expectations or demands. It comes from place inside of them, not just an external call to action anyone can deliver.
A team and the leader are in a co-creative process, hand in hand.
Neither one is more important, or more right. The leader is in that position, hopefully, because he or she has those strengths to help facilitate. But just as important are the strengths of the individuals on the team. Collectively the agenda is accomplished. The leader then, is more the funnel, creating the space and design for all to participate fully, and troubleshoot when things are not going in the direction that is valuable to all.
Friends was an American sitcom. The series was a huge hit, and is one of the most popular TV shows of all time.
Jennifer Aniston was arguably the most popular influencer or leader of the cast. But- without all the other cast mates, the show wouldn’t have been so ridiculously successful for so long. Think about that show without Phoebe, Ross or Chandler. This is true of the people that surround any leader. They are your co-stars. Your biggest assets. Your positive chemistry, and what you create with them is what will make your business or organization thrive.
If a leader or manager is looking for a lot of the glory, this is tough. As a leader- you should want your team getting that praise. They need to be the rock stars. Then they will produce more too. That is when a leader truly is great; when they teach others how to lead.
Many Blessings,
sheli G
CILC | CMC | CEBC www.shelig.com Speaker
Master Certified Business Coach
World Changer Leadership & Success Coach
“It’s time to Level UP, and harness the World Changer in YOU!” ~sheli G
The creators of Wealth Dynamics have put together an assessment of Entrepreneurs, that tells you what type of Wealth Builder you are. Look at the 8 examples below. Which do you think YOU are?
1. The Creator – Builds innovative products Examples: Steve Jobs, Walt Disney, Richard Branson
2. The Star – Builds an influential brand Examples: Oprah, Paul Newman, Bill Clinton
3. The Supporter – Builds high performance teams Examples: Steve Ballmer, Jack Welch
4. The Deal Maker – Brings deals together Examples: Donald Trump, Rupert Murdoch
5. The Trader – Buying and selling commodities Examples: George Soros
6. The Accumulator – Buying and holding assets Examples: Warren Buffet, Paul Allen
7. The Lord – Controlling cashflow producing assets Examples: Lakshmi Mital, Ingavar Kamprad
8. The Mechanic – Creating a duplicatable system Examples: Michael Dell, Ray Krock
We all have Strengths. That means we also have the opposite of strengths, which are the areas we need professional coaching/consulting in, or to hire out. This keeps us focused on what we are good at, and what we are good at we love, we are passionate about, and THAT is what makes us money, by attracting the perfect clients to us.
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