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You Can’t Buy Mastery

Twenty years ago, I watched phenomenal facilitators work with people in human development. I studied and listened in awe while they, as we say in Personal Development Land, “processed” their students. These facilitators or coaches would do focused work with the students, from the students point of tension, pain or confusion. The facilitator would guide them, as the student was willing, to the other side, or at least help them to take some real some steps forward. This experiential learning is profound in both business settings, or personal growth.

I was amazed.

It was incredible to see these coaches real-time, and watch as their intuitive hits rang spot on, nearly every time they spoke. What?? Yes.

In my naiveté I wondered… how do they know? How do they see what’s behind the mask of emotion, the story, the walls, or the rhetoric? How did they know that person was ready to finally breakthrough or scale? Now, I know.

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It’s a calling.

Sounds spiritual. And…I believe it is. When you step into your calling, purpose or cause, the greatest parts of you are unlocked and ignited. Your intuitive or spiritual self combines with your ability, education and effort. When you find the thing or things that you were created to do, if you’re aware, you know.

And then there’s the final key to mastery, time. You can’t quick-link to that level of mastery simply from text books, teachers and mentors. You can’t metabolize quotes, information or inspiration, such that you can just propel it forward into others, with spot on timing and nearly flawless delivery.

When someone who isn’t ready attempts a mastery level role, their students or employees won’t find as much value.

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The gold, magic and pure power of experience,  collaborates to bring all your raw talent and passion together.  It’s hard to articulate if you’ve never experienced it yourself.

I studied hard. I was trained, mentored, and certified in personal development and business consulting. #serialentrepreneur I worked and I served for countless hours. Years of being a committed, consistent student, working from where I was, both failing and succeeding along the way… and yet reaching for mastery. Those are the touchstones of my capacity to deliver my work today. And I just adore what I do.

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The Big Mistake…
Is- skipping parts of this rights-of-passage process, because of impatience, poor mentoring, ego or entitlement. To be exceptional, your mastery levels must always be humbly, earned.

Don’t skip any part of the perfect process that these elements will bring to your practice, cause or calling. The old truth of 10,000 hours of experience, or something like that, truly is the golden key that brings your vision to fruition.

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The Secret
Humility reminds you to take the journey, with no shortcuts. Humility… when you know that there is so much yet to learn about, experience and understand. And when you reach a mastery level, you will know. But, you will still make mistakes. And you won’t think of the epic successes as yours, but they will belong to your clients, and those you mentor.

And as you continue, more humility greets you with the kiss of knowing, that we are all equally called to greatness. No one is ever bigger or smaller in the circle. It’s not about Race. Geography. Gender. Profession. Religion. The big difference is, only some say yes to the call.

Say Y E S

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Sheli G
Speaker | Team Igniter | Comedian | Author
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Goal Setting Isn’t Motivating

Hashtag Goal setting … blahhhh.  🙂

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I’ve been informally doing goals all my life, and more formally since I started athletics and working in sales…so very young. Part of me is “over it”, and part of me totally understands… sometimes it is required and/or really beneficial.

I find however, it is ONLY beneficial if you are *already truly internally motivated towards the things you will be cultivating on and from that list. Otherwise, it’s possibly rhetoric, and you are bound to under-achieve what you listed, or feel underwhelmed by your results.

I like to ponder my own assessment formula first:

  • what worked this past year, and why?
  • what didn’t work, and why?
  • what relationships supported me well, and I them?
  • what relationships need work, and how?
  • are there any relationships that need to be scaled back?
  • what makes my soul absolutely SING? (books, serving others, people, activities…)
  • am I growing positively as a person?
  • if so, how am I growing?
  • what area deserves the most growth/work this next year? (spiritual, financial, physical, etc)
  • what is my THEME for 2014? (Giving. Risk. Professionalism. Marketing. etc)

Those are pretty simple to answer. Answer them Honestly for real results.

SO…

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This is a great thing to ask your-real-self before goal setting.

We can all sit down and make lists if we need to. You can make them all day long.

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But what is driving us? What is fueling us? What is in the way? These are good foundational questions, to make sure our goals are really where we want and NEED to go, and not where others think we should go (co-dependents, people pleasers??) or where we have assumed we should go…for some reason.

*What do you REALLY want, what is your soul calling you to do… and how do you need to operate in every aspect of your life to achieve that?

If you were choosing from passion and vision vs. fear and insecurity, what would you go after in 2014? Let us begin!
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Many Blessings,
sheli  G
CILC | CMC | CEBC

www.shelig.com
International Speaker
Master Certified Business Coach
World Changer Leadership & Life Mastery Coach
“It’s time to embrace the World Changer in YOU!” ~sheli G

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The “Balance” Self Test

People in the U.S. often talk about “Balance”.

So, what is that anyway?

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[bal-uhns] noun, verb, bal·anced, bal·anc·ing. noun. A harmonious or satisfying arrangement or proportion of parts or elements, To bring into or maintain in a state of equilibrium, A stable mental or psychological state; emotional stability.

In my http://www.shelig.com Business and Life Mastery Coaching and workshops, I often hear this: “I am trying to gain, maintain or realize balance in my life…” But it is rarely perceived as achieved by most people I know. Or perhaps we wouldn’t know it even if we did achieve it. It’s a bit allusive. It is best defined not in the collective perspective at all, but individually. What represents balance for one, is boring to another, and to yet another is quite overwhelming. I believe a state of balance for all of us is a fluid, ever-changing process. From week to week, month to month and so on, *this balance that I strive for must continually be weighed out by me, for me.
Weighing my balance
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This is a self-assessment chart that I like to use for myself, and my clients. It’s very simple, and can be modified as you have other areas that you would like to rate yourself on. You can see on each category petal, there are 10 dots.  Rate yourself on a scale of 1-10, 1 being the lowest balance and needing work, 10 being as balanced as it gets, or perfect. Do each category, and then notice, what areas need the most improvement? Depending on your personality, you can structure your own Call To Action accordingly.
 
If you tend to get overwhelmed, take one area that needs the most attention, and work on it for a week while you continue to do your best in the other areas too. *But have that one area that you can focus on for improvement, one day at a time. Then add in another area as you are ready.
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*A Life Mastery Coach can be really helpful here to assist you in addressing your lower areas, while encouraging you not to go into guilt or overwhelm. *Marinating in feelings of guilt and overwhelm serve no value, and can rob you of the precious energy you need to self-correct.

Overachievers who like to get a lot of results NOW might take on your top 2-3 areas that are lowest, and work on those. Focus on those for a month, then assess yourself again.

This is a great thing to do weekly or monthly as needed. BEING AWARE of these areas is a huge part of being balanced! Sometimes we are unknowingly off, and we just need that realignment of focus to help us adjust the sails.
 
As an Entrepreneur, Leader or Manager of a team
You can also see how your team is doing using a similar method. People are not motivated to work harder from the outside in, aka: a typical sales meeting, applied pressure (or shame), big goals and numbers. If they are, it’s a very temporary motivator. You want inspired employees, long term! That means they are motivated from the INside out, hence INspired. To do this, they need the self-awareness of what is working, and what isn’t working, or what needs adjustment. Employees will adjust themselves- when we empower them. Give them a tool to self test, and the time and resources to adjust. For a business context, the above pie chart categories may read more like: Retail Sales…Work relationships…File Completeness…Deadlines Met…Conversions achieved…Punctuality…Customer Service Scores… or whatever the culture of your business or team holds as valuable.
 
Also having a Dynamic Professional Facilitator to take your team or business through things like this can be positively enlightening, a ton of FUN, and then you can be there with your team rating yourself. Modeling accountability, responsibility and awareness to your team is profound, and speaks volumes over a typical business-as-usual meeting.
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Sometimes, we all HYPER FOCUS.
That big project or event you are hosting. The family reunion that is at YOUR house. The big client that are you trying to land. The baby you just had. The Grand Opening of your business! The much needed vacation. The home remodel or move. Your company being bought out by another….
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There are times we just have to get through an event, a season, or a rites of passage time in our life… and do the best we can, with a lot of energy going towards that 1 big goal or event.
When that benchmark is achieved, we can do our self test and re-align.
What suffered the most during that time, or in other words received the least amount of your energy? Your family? Your Sales? Your health? Relationships? Your charity or church? Again- this can only be assessed by you, for you. But when we hyper focus, we need to take a pause when we come up for air, and intentionally decide what the next chapter will look like.When I leave the country to go do workshops and seminars for a week, I make it up to my kids both before and after I get back. I block out a bunch of time that is just for them. No phone calls taken or meetings, just my undivided attention. That’s part of my balance.
Balance is important, although not easily defined. Do the test. Don’t beat yourself up. It’s a never-ending process. As life changes, so do we. *Self-assessing, which then leads to Self-awareness, are the two first big steps in achieving the right balance for you.

Many Blessings,

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sheli  G
CILC | CMC | CEBC

www.shelig.com
International Speaker
Master Certified Business Coach
World Changer Leadership & Life Mastery Coach
“It’s time to unleash the World Changer in YOU!” ~sheli G

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It’s my Birthday and I’ll Blog if I want too…

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YES- It is really my birthday. Today I am 44.

It’s my birthday, so I am (trying) to do what I think I should, and what everyone on Facebook says I should: Be spoiled, pampered, relax, enjoy my day.

But to me, as with any true Entrepreneur, this is….weird, awkward…. (and super hard!)

I wake up at 5 or 6AM if I sleep in, and begin to pray and meditate about my day. Then my brain takes over: What logistics do I need to handle? Phone calls, meetings, articles to write, stuff to follow up on, blog! Then on to what really matters: Who do I need to connect with today? Who needs help, support, encouragement, education, tips, inspiration, a warning, a scripture, honesty, strategy, a referral, consultation, counsel, challenge, or love?

And of course there are my three kids, Tyger 14, Teisha 7 and Trae 5. They keep me very busy, laughing, growing and challenged. Then there is my husband… aka my other kid 🙂

Did I mention my three dogs? Yep (ask my kid of a husband about how we got 3) Honey, Hurley and Belle.

And the house. Oh, the many (many) many to do’s that are always lurking within.

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Family, Charity, Business, Ministry…. time for me? That is just silly talk- usually. Many Entrepreneurs do much of their work from a home office these days. So the boundaries are hard to draw. Everywhere we look, the desk, computer, the house… the freakin yard (yikes) it all begs to be tended to. Like most small business owners, I have to seriously prioritize, attack, and then release at the end of the day what I have not yet achieved.

But alas, when I facilitate Strategic Business or Breakthrough Life Coaching with a client, I always tell them to make sure they are blocking out time for them! To rejuvenate, relax, think, pray, laugh, eat, heal. Hmmmmmm.

So today is my birthday. (I know, I repeated that…I am really just reminding myself) I normally totally ignore my birthday, and just do work and life as per usual.

SOooooo I am blogging, eating potato chips with coffee, going to go back to bed for a couple of hours and watch an action movie I have wanted to watch but have not had (made) time for. I am going to listen to ridiculously good music. I am going to pet my adorable dogs. I am going to not worry so much about my long list of to do’s, should do’s, and my longer list of people I so want to help support in some way. When I come back (tomorrow) I will be REIGNITED! Y E S!

And I will be connecting, I hope, with YOU.

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Many Blessings,
 
sheli  G
CILC | CMC | CEBC

www.shelig.com

Certified International Business, Leadership & Life Success Coach

5 things my Dog taught me about Business

Dogs are amazing. They innately know some things that we as Leaders deserve to observe and implement about business, and people.

5) If you smell, it’s time for a bath.

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Good hygiene and grooming are very important in business. No matter what business you are in, you need to avoid offending people with how you look or smell. Every business has a dress code or culture to follow with great variances. But whatever that code is, be the best in your field. For Leaders and Business Owners wanting to gain clients, there are some keys to your best look:

~ Keep Hair clean, cut and up to date on style. (if you don’t know, go to a salon that knows and get them to help you or at least affirm or debate what you think is a good style/cut)

~ Clothes should ALWAYS, in all ways, be clean, pressed, and be the right SIZE. (when you gain or lose weight, get the new size. Tight on cash? Go thrifting or Ebaying for great deals)

~ Shoes always need to be polished, by you or someone. (unpolished shoes send all kinds of negative messages to your boss, clients etc)

~ Shower daily. Yep.

~ Teeth & breath need to be clean. (if you smoke and or drink coffee, brush after or use a mint or mouthwash please)

4) If you bark loudly and/or often, you will struggle with people- often.

As an extroverted person myself, I learned this important lesson: There is a difference between your inside voice and your outside voice. (If you don’t know what I mean, get a coach or mentor to explain)    🙂

3) Forgiveness is King.

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Forgiveness allows the relationship to reset endlessly, love unconditionally, and your tail to wag frequently.

We all make mistakes. It’s called being human. Let 99% roll off, and work out the rest. Save your energy for your work goals… avoid the drama!

2) Train them up in the way they should go.

Dogs act exactly how their owner trains them to. So do people. Be accountable as a Manager, Leader or Business Owner. Train them correctly, support them adequately, and they will succeed. If they don’t, they need more training and support, perhaps more than just by you. Bring in a neutral, objective Business and Life Coach. (*Hint- if your whole team is not acting as you would like them to, it’s not the individuals, it’s the system, the leadership, or both.)

1) The best dogs are irreplaceable.

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And so are great people. They are not expendable.

~ Get really good people in the RIGHT job for them. *No one succeeds long-term in the wrong position. (which means YOU need to find, screen and place or transfer them well)

~ Train and support them exceptionally well in business, and their life. (they are not neatly separated with walls as we would like to think)

~ And above all, encourage and affirm their strengths.We get a lot of negative. We need to know what IS working about what we are doing, which propels us to do that more.

Employees, partners or associates will be very loyal to you, as you create and maintain a healthy, positive business culture for them to thrive in.

Many Blessings,
 
sheli  G
CILC | CMC | CEBC

www.shelig.com

Certified International Business, Leadership & Life Success Coach

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EXPOSED. Opportunity, or Overwhelm?

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What opportunities should I take? AND What do I pass on?

It’s the toughest question since the recession. People still spend their money and time. Opportunities are bombarding us from every angle  more than ever. From the people around us, to our online activity, to our cell phones bringing all our contacts and options to us 24/7… it’s endless. (until you shut it DOWN) 🙂

Business owners DO still need to invest in themselves, and their businesses to adapt, and move forward at the speed of the culture and their own dreams. This will never change.

SO- where do the people you want to be like when you “grow up”, or go to your next LEVEL UP hang out? What are they doing? What is working for them? What challenges you about your business and your life right now, and who knows how to navigate that? Who has been there and has some keys?

The Gathering Choose in

Forget about the places that we used to network at. (at least re-think them. ALL of them.)

Forget about business and activity that doesn’t result in either a direct deposit to your bottom line, or you truly developing as a leader and a person. Forget about the things you have always done in the past, or were committed to, or served on the board of (or committee of, yikes) … if they are not serving you anymore, or you just know it’s time for the new. Forget about places, people and events, if you leave them unmoved, unchanged, and drained.

Go where inspiration, innovation and collaboration COLLIDE… at sometimes even an alarming rate! Have some adrenaline charged fun expanding, challenging yourself and others, and hanging out with the passionate, driven people making their visions a tangible reality today. Life is urgent and precious. What legacy are you leaving behind if you drifted away in your sleep tonight?

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Start living the bucket list NOW. You were given your visions and dreams because God thought YOU were the one to set them free and see them through. Prove him right.

 

Many Blessings,
sheli  G
CILC | CMC | CEBC

www.shelig.com
International Speaker
Master Certified Business Coach
World Changer Leadership & Life Mastery Coach
“It’s time to unleash the World Changer in YOU!” ~sheli G

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5 Business items NOT TO SCRIMP ON

Cheapskate. Coupon clipper. Mega-Deal shopper.

These can be fabulous traits, as Dave Ramsey would usually agree. We have long overspent, over-purchased, and hard times have taught us to be intentional and careful with our bucks!

I am a sucker for a sale. But, when you are in business, some things you shouldn’t scrimp on. If you do, it can hurt your bottom line, defeating the purpose of “saving money” !

Here are a few…

#5 Your Company Logo

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Think different, and think smart phone aps too. It’s not just about what looks good on a glossy piece of paper anymore. Is it INTERNET – social media – and click friendly? Will it be cool 10 years from now, or 40. It needs to have unique artistic quality, timeless energy, global capability.  Or you’ll be re-branding every few years. (now that’s expensive.)

#4 Your Company Party

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If you’re gonna throw a trashy party, skip it. A party is only as classy as it’s (host), food, atmosphere, and if applicable, the band. If you make it a potluck, have it at a Motel 6 carpet look-a-like room, and bring the receptionists 14 year old with a Wal-Mart clearance Karaoke machine, that is the quality of the party. Forget it, or GO BIG and FAT and posh. Especially if you do one a year for your employees, go all out. They deserve it. (if they don’t, support them better, with trainings, compliments, parties, and increase your fun AND profits 🙂 )

#3 Your Smartphone

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I admit it, my husband was right. (thanks honey) I had to level up my CrackBerry for a real business making phone. It’s worth every penny, as I’ve increased my revenue since I bought it. We can do a ridiculous amount on these handheld computers. It’s worth it.

#2 Your Promo Materials

I cringe when I see a photo copy of a copy of a photo copy of a blurry, crooked form of any kind  from a business. Be professional. Get it done right. If your printer sucks, get it printed on good paper at a copy place. If that’s too expensive, invest in a great copier/printer. It makes a huge difference. You’re not saving money with bad prints, you’re losing business.

#1 Your Business Cards

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Although much of our business promo stuff is online today, nothing beats meeting someone face to face,  and giving them a sleek, sexy, PREMIUM business card. For clients, affiliates, referral sources…it makes a huge impression. Notice the feeling you have when you get a hot one,  vs. a boring, old, 1980’s corporate card? Too much White or off White, too much text, too much not-needed info….and no WOW! Give them an incredible experience when they see that card. It speaks to who you are, and how vibrant your business is, or isn’t.

“After all, it’s not a race to the bottom…..” ~ Seth Godin

Many Blessings,
 
sheli  G
CILC | CMC | CEBC

www.shelig.com

Certified International Business, Leadership & Life Success Coach

7 Tips to a SMOKIN HOT INTERVIEW

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The amount of Life and Leadership Coaching clients who are asking me about how to CRUSH IT with JOB INTERVIEWS has spiked. SO many people are looking for work. Not only the unemployed are seeking, but those who are looking to  “Level Up” in their career and life to a premium job or workplace. If you are not happy where you are, don’t wait. *Go after what you really want, or someone else will.

So from my clients TOP QUESTIONS about interviews, I created:

7 tips to a SMOKIN HOT INTERVIEW.

#7  Dress for Your Total SUCCESS.

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Yes- It’s still true, you absolutely need to. We have a lot of “Business Casual” dress going around these days. BUT seriously, level up! Dress one notch above anyone else interviewing. You are not hired yet- so don’t take any liberties. Be conservative, unless you are an artist, rock star, or there is an industry specific attire that is required for them to think you are cutting edge-hip. You deserve to do your homework about the company, and the actual person interviewing you if possible. Find them on Facebook and LinkedIn, as well as their company web site too. Try to go in personally to the company before the interview, to see what they are wearing, and get the vibe of the organization. Ask someone in the industry if you are new to the industry. Go to their website and see if there are any real pictures of their employees actually working or at events. Getting insider information can give you an edge. Also remember: The Psychology of the colors you wear will communicate volumes. A Banker will dress differently than an Elementary School Teacher, or a Super Model etc. *Choose intentionally.

Red= is a very strong, “power” color. It is a noticeable color that is often used on caution and warning signs. It is often associated with stop or “beware”. It’s a hot color that evokes a powerful emotion of passion, lust, sex, energy, blood and war. Wearing accessories in Red is a more conservative bet. Ex: A Red Tie, Red Shoes or handbag.

Orange= is a combination of Red and Yellow. It is also a bright and warm color. It represents fire, the sun, fun, warmth and tropical images. It is considered a fun light color that has appetizing qualities to it. Orange increases oxygen supply to the brain and stimulates mental activity. It is appreciated among young adults and teens.

Green= is the color of nature and health. It also represents growth, money, fertility and safety.

Blue= is a cool calming color that shows creativity and intelligence. It is a popular color among large corporations, hospitals and airlines.  It is a color of loyalty, strength, wisdom and trust. Blue has a calming effect on the psyche.

Purple= combines the stability of blue and the energy of red. Throughout history purple has been associated with royalty, nobility and prestige. It symbolizes mystery, magic, power and luxury.

White= is often associated with being pure, clean, fresh and good. (It also shows every dirty spot, so it’s bad if Lasagna is for lunch)

Black= is often a color used to portray something evil, depressing, scary or even death in western civilization.  It has negative imagery with it at times such as “black mail” “black list” “black hole” etc. Black is also a very powerful color that portrays one of class elegance and wealth. Black is best when worn as an accessory.

#6  Be ON TIME.

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*which means be 15-25 minutes early, ready to interview

So many people don’t do this. 1 minute late is LATE, and so is 10 minutes or 5. Plan for the traffic accident, snowstorm, last minute phone call etc. If you plan to be early, then you can manage a time-crisis that comes up. Otherwise you may be late or rush in, looking stressed out at the last moment, and not be prepared or grounded to WOW your interviewer. Being early not only sets you apart, it allows you to get yourself mentally prepared for the interview as you wait, and impress them with your professionalism. *If you are not committed to being there early for the interview, when you should be courting them…how will you show up when they hire you? It becomes their risk.

#5  Research the Industry and Company.

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You should know what and who you are applying for. What kind of business did they do last year? Did they change their logo? Who are the Executives? Are they involved with the community? Are they traded on the stock market? Who is the CEO? The Founder? What do their employees say about them? What does the BBB say about them? Google, LinkedIn, Facebook and word of mouth should tell you a lot. This is more than most of your lazy competition will do. It will prepare you to, at the right time, compliment the company to the interviewer. For example: “I did see that your ROI was up 17.4% last year, so that is exciting! What do you attribute that too?” *You will impress them!

#4  It’s JUST not an employer directed Q&A.

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*it just appears to be one, and might be if you don’t interrupt that train.

If you are confident in who you are and what you bring to a team, then you should ALSO be interviewing the company you are talking to. When there is a window, and as it is appropriate, by all means ask about the vision of the company! Ask where they see the company in 1 or 5 years etc. Ask what impact it has had on the community. Take that time to reveal some of the research you should have done on them, and show your knowledge, intelligence and commitment to getting this job. And as you are asked questions, answer them very intentionally!  If you are asked, “Did you like your last job” Do not say “Yes”. They are fishing. Answer: “Yes I really did. It challenged me in many ways, and expanded my knowledge of our customer, and how to prepare a presentation for them to meet their unique needs…”  Take the stage when you answer! Not over the top like an ego maniac. But it’s your time to tell them why they should hire YOU! Why are you the best fit? Or why will they like you over 10 other applicants that have the same or better credentials? What sets you apart? Make it real. Make it personal. Make it strike a chord. CONNECT. *Be a person, not a resume.

#3  Use FRESH WORDS.

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“The truth is…”  “I like to think outside of the box…”  “The Early bird gets the worm…”  “I like to empower others…” Blah Blah blah. These and others have been OVERUSED. So don’t recycle them-again. Say something NEW, unique and energetic, that conveys the essence of what you really want to communicate.

If you want to say “The truth is…” to convey that you are honest and straightforward, say instead: “Here is the truth about where I am at on this at my very core, I value people tremendously, each one for their unique story and purpose…” Be real, specific, conversational not scripted, and be memorable!

If you want to say …”I want to be a good loyal member of your team” say instead “I too have a vision. I know from the research I conducted about XYZ company, that I am truly in alignment with where you are going, what you intend to create, and I am confident I am one of your dynamic players in the future, in helping to make that vision come alive in the months and years to come.”  *Be yourself, but be INSPIRING!

#2  Don’t get TRAPPED.

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The interview serves two purposes: 1) Find your best candidates (this may take several rounds of interviewing) and 2) Weed out immediately those who are not the best

To make it past the first round you have to do all of the above- and do it well. Most people make up their minds about us quickly, between 30 seconds and 3 minutes. You better pull out your best remarks and answers early on. That is the one of the first primary interview tests, after you pass dress, being on time, and greeting them properly. (firm, confident but warm handshake with a smile)

When they ask you: “What did you like about your last job” again, this is your time to shine! Be warm, be sincere, be specific. Show them who you are above the resume paper!   AND then when they ask you what you “Didn’t like about the job” lookout…this can be another huge trap. If you speak about the WORST part about your last job, beware. Your whole energy, facial and body expression, tone of voice and story will be negative and toxic. They will begin to imagine you upset with them, and wonder what nasty remarks you will make about their company company. Not good. Also it’s not professional to bag on a company or past manager etc. So what CAN you do? Pick a MUCH LESSER challenge that occurred. If your #1 was that you didn’t like the overall atmosphere you worked in, don’t say that. Pick something else like: “Our company was not very involved in community events and charities. I noticed when researching XYZ company, that you gave the school district a car last month to help them raise funds for their athletic program. I think companies that support the community and create positive change, are the companies that will last and be the best places to be a part of long-term.”  You’ve now said something truthful, but not ugly. Your energy didn’t turn toxic as you shared, you were still personable and positive. *You have also complimented your new prospective company. Very smart.

#1  For the love of all that is good…. FOLLOW UP.

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People used to call after an interview to see if they got the job. In fact, when I owned a mortgage business with three locations, I NEVER called the candidates back after the interview. I told them I would. But if they didn’t follow-up with me, I assumed they didn’t want the job, they weren’t assertive enough for me, or they were just not good at follow-up, which is imperative to most jobs. (that is a test)

If you can, go in IN PERSON to follow-up. If not, then call. If you cannot call the company, then email. Email is a last resort. Everyone emails. Everyone has a box full of emails to drudge through daily. Be different. Level up. Do the best form of follow-up communication you possibly can. Outshine your competition while they send a boring email, using the old recycled language. (yawn) Be professional, but again be energetic, memorable, and include a great picture.

*People don’t hire paper, they hire people. People that inspire them.

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Many Blessings,
sheli  G
CILC | CMC | CEBC

www.shelig.com
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6 Signs your EGO is bigger than your MOJO

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If you’re reading this, you may actually be OK in this area. 🙂

The title of this blog alone will scare some large ego’s away. But in a culture that thrives on ego based everything…chances are we still have some work to do on this.

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6 Signs your EGO is bigger than your MOJO

  • When how you look, your reputation, your brand or business Persona is more important than making a positive difference really is. (which one do you think about or worry about more?)
  • When you are leading, teaching, coaching or speaking, and someone has a negative response to what you say, and this totally spins you personally.
  • When you are more worried about being right, than: taking a step back to look at the other persons point of view, or looking at the greater good of the whole, or having the relationship stay intact.
  • When you keep telling the same “success” stories about yourself, or things that make you look good, when you realize those are old stories and you need new ones.
  • When you speak from your head most of the time, vs. your compassion.
  • If your friends and employees were anonymously polled, would they say you had a bigger EGO? or HEART?

Goals must never be from your ego, but problems that cry for a solution.
~Robert H. Schuller

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Many Blessings,

 

sheli  G
CILC | CMC | CEBC

www.shelig.com
International Speaker
Master Certified Business Coach
World Changer Leadership & Life Mastery Coach

 

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Do I “Unhook” from Negative Nellies??

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In Personal/Spiritual Development Land, I hear this a lot:

“Cut negative people out of your life. You don’t need them. You cannot go where you deserve to with them in your life”

It’s a classic “Empowerment Challenge”. But it has never fully resonated with me. What about you?

Here are a few thoughts on why cutting everyone in a “negative space” out of your life may not always be best.

  • THE negative one may be a family member.
  • You may work with them, or they may be your boss!
  • They are going through a temporary rough patch.
  • When YOU are the Negative Nellie or Nelson.
  • How can we “Be the change we wish to see in the World”… if we only connect with the easy, fun, already happy ones?
  • It may be our own perception or projection, that is judging or viewing them as a negative influence.

When they are a family member.

By all means you can draw healthy boundaries. (book by Dr Cloud & Dr. Townsend)

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I am not saying roll over, or take abuse of any kind from anyone. I AM saying think about it. If you pray or meditate, do that. I did have to draw a boundary with a family member. She had been through a super hard time. But it came to a place of toxicity in her words mostly, that I had to draw a boundary and not have her around or communicate with her at all. The good news is, I made it clear that this was her choice, that if she went back to honoring our family with respect and kindness, that our relationship would be restored, and it was. Every case is different! If you are abused etc, you need professional help to navigate those choices. ( Google it ) But this is more for every day dealings, when family members are on a lesser scale of challenging or destructive. ~Calm down, get advice from a healthy person, and think about it before you take action. (* A Life Coach or Counselor is skilled in this area)

When you work with him or her. 

You have a lot at stake in this case. If you treat them in ways the company or managers don’t approve of, you may lose your job. People around you get very uncomfortable with conflict. One scenario I know was so bad, that even though BOTH sales people were top producers in the WEST, the company felt they had to choose 1 and move on, to re-build more positive energy in the workplace. Also if it’s your boss, watch out. Their ego alone, and/or their position of having more of a voice in everything than you, makes it nearly impossible to be their breakthrough buddy on “their issues”. Again, this is assuming you are right, and sometimes you may not be. SO- is it worth risking your job? If you are open to this: think about it before spouting off.  (and never spout in an email, it’s cowardly) I used to liken myself when I am really passionate to Joan of Arc, until a wise mentor reminded me that Joan was burned at the stake, at a young age. Sometimes it’s not our battle to fight. And guess what?! ~Often times there are similar people at the next job too.

Sometimes the tough space they are in is temporary.

Very often this is true. Are you going to bail the minute they are struggling? Overall- has the connection been healthy? Is this time temporary? Is there a greater window of grace they deserve from you? For most of us, tough times cycle through. ~They don’t last forever.

Remember, YOU may at some point be the “Negative Nellie” or “Nelson”.

I’ve been there. I think we all have. I am thankful for friends, family and mentors that saw me through. It’s also good to remember when we are going through Hell, keep on going until you are through. ~Don’t be abusive (verbally, physically, emotionally….) to anyone, in any way while you are in the funk.

Where does “Be the Difference..” come into play?

If you think of yourself as a spiritual or good person, then dig deep into the work of relationships. Some are easy, and some are super hard! That is the deal. If you are a leader, teacher, coach, counselor or general do-gooder…then go the extra mile. Breakthrough your own triggers, associations and shortfalls in the process. Expand. Again, I’m not advocating staying in abuse. ~I am saying that if we want to be the light in the dark, we must confront the dark and bring the light to dispel the dark. If not you, then who? If not today, then when?

MLK love can do that

Projection, Perception and the Shadow of self.

OK I know, that is a lot of psychological words right there…but Google it 🙂 What we are struggling with in ourselves, is often what drives us crazy about others. For example: Right now, on a scale of 1-10, 1 being not very much, to 10 being totally- 100%… RATE how much do YOU trust OTHERS… ( close your eyes & just do it! )  🙂

Usually, how high you rate others, is actually how you rate YOURSELF as trustworthy. This is just 1 example. Also, the Shadow side of our psychology might suggest that what repels us from others, is something we lack, or that we need to work on in ourselves. The “Workaholic” looks down on the guy that gets enough work done in 4 days, and then goes to the beach to surf non-stop for 3 days. One possible reason is envy, which is actually just his internal signal that the Workaholic deserves joy, play and a more balanced life too, but is struggling to get there.

I suggest, as long as you’re safe, that we learn to love, work with, tolerate and mentor each other. We learn more from the challenging relationships and struggles in life than we would by ourselves, “happy” on an island. ~Let us do the work, and learn how to reach and teach everyone who is willing.

Many Blessings,
sheli  G
CILC | CMC | CEBC

www.shelig.com
International Speaker
Master Certified Business Coach
World Changer Leadership & Life Mastery Coach
“It’s time to unleash the World Changer in YOU!” ~sheli G


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