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You Can’t Buy Mastery

Twenty years ago, I watched phenomenal facilitators work with people in human development. I studied and listened in awe while they, as we say in Personal Development Land, “processed” their students. These facilitators or coaches would do focused work with the students, from the students point of tension, pain or confusion. The facilitator would guide them, as the student was willing, to the other side, or at least help them to take some real some steps forward. This experiential learning is profound in both business settings, or personal growth.

I was amazed.

It was incredible to see these coaches real-time, and watch as their intuitive hits rang spot on, nearly every time they spoke. What?? Yes.

In my naiveté I wondered… how do they know? How do they see what’s behind the mask of emotion, the story, the walls, or the rhetoric? How did they know that person was ready to finally breakthrough or scale? Now, I know.

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It’s a calling.

Sounds spiritual. And…I believe it is. When you step into your calling, purpose or cause, the greatest parts of you are unlocked and ignited. Your intuitive or spiritual self combines with your ability, education and effort. When you find the thing or things that you were created to do, if you’re aware, you know.

And then there’s the final key to mastery, time. You can’t quick-link to that level of mastery simply from text books, teachers and mentors. You can’t metabolize quotes, information or inspiration, such that you can just propel it forward into others, with spot on timing and nearly flawless delivery.

When someone who isn’t ready attempts a mastery level role, their students or employees won’t find as much value.

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The gold, magic and pure power of experience,  collaborates to bring all your raw talent and passion together.  It’s hard to articulate if you’ve never experienced it yourself.

I studied hard. I was trained, mentored, and certified in personal development and business consulting. #serialentrepreneur I worked and I served for countless hours. Years of being a committed, consistent student, working from where I was, both failing and succeeding along the way… and yet reaching for mastery. Those are the touchstones of my capacity to deliver my work today. And I just adore what I do.

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The Big Mistake…
Is- skipping parts of this rights-of-passage process, because of impatience, poor mentoring, ego or entitlement. To be exceptional, your mastery levels must always be humbly, earned.

Don’t skip any part of the perfect process that these elements will bring to your practice, cause or calling. The old truth of 10,000 hours of experience, or something like that, truly is the golden key that brings your vision to fruition.

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The Secret
Humility reminds you to take the journey, with no shortcuts. Humility… when you know that there is so much yet to learn about, experience and understand. And when you reach a mastery level, you will know. But, you will still make mistakes. And you won’t think of the epic successes as yours, but they will belong to your clients, and those you mentor.

And as you continue, more humility greets you with the kiss of knowing, that we are all equally called to greatness. No one is ever bigger or smaller in the circle. It’s not about Race. Geography. Gender. Profession. Religion. The big difference is, only some say yes to the call.

Say Y E S

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Sheli G
Speaker | Team Igniter | Comedian | Author
sheligcoaching@gmail.com | http://www.SheliG.com

Courageous Convos- Race

SO I am a guest tomorrow on the wildly popular Idaho TV show, with it’s creator Derrick Boles. It’s called; Courageous Conversations.

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This topic tomorrow, on RACE, definitely takes courage to talk about, especially on TV! It is charged with media spins, politics, old hurtful history, ignorance on all sides to some degree, and a fierce lack of solutions.

Part of me wants to be silent, like I am often on social media, with topics such as these. Why? Because I don’t want to be blown up over my thoughts. And I don’t want to offend, hurt, or confuse ANY of my friends.

But, as my friend Derrick and I have often said in our private conversations, this is part of the problem. The only dialogue happening about Race today is the media spun, anger infused, irrational talk that only fuels this long burning fire of sad segregation in our country.

I love all people. I truly do. I want us ALL to be able to ask each other questions, both ways. I want to be taught what you think and feel, AND I would like to be heard too.

I am not a racist, simply because of my White skin, as you are not any of the stereotypes you may feel you live under. 

We are all children of God, and we need to begin COMPASSIONATE, Courageous Conversations, now, before it’s too late for the US to do so. Join us? Before we lose each other, and everything we have all worked so hard for.

“Please plan to tune in to my television series ‘Courageous Conversations’ this Sunday at 11:30 am on Channel 12.  Topic: Race to Resolution”   Derrick Boles

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Sheli G Founder/CEO, Women Ignite Idaho                                                                         International Speaker | Author | Transformationist                                                           https://www.facebook.com/sheliGinspires

the WE in WII

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The Women Ignite Idaho team is made up of women just like you…

Passionate. Committed. Seeking. Experienced. Hard Working. Influential. Magical.

Are you in?
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Our vision asked an important question as we talked about this year’s conference
What can WII do together?
WII; the Speakers, the Vendors, the Sponsors. WE are all a key component. We are all the heart of this show. As individuals, we know hundreds, even thousands of women who deserve to join us. That’s really big, but….

Together, we know hundreds of thousands of women in the Treasure Valley, and beyond. Live events, email lists and social media connects us all in more ways than we realize. WOW!

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Together we are like a typhoon of energy, drawing in the women who are seekers of their greatest moments to come. Together, we cannot be stopped. We achieve our audacious goals, together.
Are you in?
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What part do you play? As a Vendor, a Speaker or Sponsor?
We all play a special, key role. Invite your friends, teams, co-workers, and family.

  • Invite them to “like” the WII Facebook page: http://www.facebook.com/womenigniteidaho
  • Go into the FB Conference event page, click on “invite” and invite your network!
  • Private message, email your list, call, text and connect with your networks.
  • Get your network the links and info they need, OR contact WII to get them the info.

WII are nothing without the collective WE, which includes YOU.

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WII are so very excited to meet you, support you and your visions, and co-create the best women’s conference….EVER, with you.

Are you in?

Many Blessings,
sheli  G
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CILC | CMC | CEBC

www.shelig.com
CEO Women Ignite Idaho Conference and Trade Show
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International Speaker
Master Certified Business Coach
World Changer Leadership & Life Mastery Coach
“It’s time to ignite the World Changer in YOU!” ~sheli G

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Control=Old School… Inspire them!

This is the most simple answer, to a common challenge for many leaders. I learned this one in my twenties, both in management positions, and in owning my first business.

You cannot control others. Period.

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Yes, you can nag them. Write them up. Fire them perhaps. Then start all over again. But at the end of the day, THEY CHOOSE. They decide if they are in or out. They decide if the organization’s message resonates enough with them to invest at a high level. They choose how hard, long and creatively they will work.

In my consultations with organizations, leaders and teams, I find that often Team Leaders will spin with frothy frustration over control tug-of-wars with their teams. Exhausting. Let’s get real; People don’t go to work because they want you to be proud of them. It’s not THEIR company or vision. (this is important for CEO’s who think everyone should think like them- it ain’t gonna happen) And they don’t care about their managers bonus, generally speaking. They are there for some internal and/or external reason of their own. Personal fulfillment. Bills to pay. This is the field they got a degree in. Or this is a step in the direction they are headed. Or because they love their job. Or they love the type of clients your company attracts… But they are not there to fulfill your ambitions as a team leader, or company owner/founder. Ambitions like: status, numbers, money, ego, power, market position, retirement, moving up the ladder etc.

That’s OK that they are there for themselves. You are there for yourself as well. It’s your dream, vision, calling or whatever. So- like your team, you are all there for personal reasons. 

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When I facilitate workshops, the same elements apply.

People show up. They show up for a reason. Those reasons differ. What they will all individually bring to the room dynamic is unique. What they will create, and take away from that space is unique! We aren’t robots, right? So then my job is NOT to control them, but rather to inspire them. (this is way more fun and NOT exhausting!)

SO- I create a safe, premium environment for the participants to do whatever work they came to do. But the majority of what I do, I create during the live process, with the team I am working with. I have my intentions beforehand of what I am hired to accomplish. And, how I get there totally depends on the participants! I move from my list of planned exercises, and adapt them to match the dynamics of the particular individuals or team. I base this on: their strengths, their attitudes, the time frame, the obstacles, the personalities, the intention of that particular workshop, and the biggest factor: What they would like to create or take away our time together. *I have them share this, early on in our sessions.

What do they want to create?

What THEIR intention is. That is their hot button, and how you can understand them. What motivates THEM? Remember, It may be very different from what motivates you. That’s OK, as long as they ARE motivated, right? When you understand them, you can then be an inspiration to help them fulfill that goal. Inspired individuals, teams and volunteers are happier and more fulfilled. Happier more fulfilled people produce more, produce quality, last longer, and make your life as a leader better.  But it doesn’t come from them having a copy of their job description. It doesn’t come from your companies expectations or demands. It comes from place inside of them, not just an external call to action anyone can deliver.

A team and the leader are in a co-creative process, hand in hand.

Neither one is more important, or more right. The leader is in that position, hopefully, because he or she has those strengths to help facilitate. But just as important are the strengths of the individuals on the team. Collectively the agenda is accomplished. The leader then, is more the funnel, creating the space and design for all to participate fully, and troubleshoot when things are not going in the direction that is valuable to all.

Friends was an American sitcom. The series was a huge hit, and is one of the most popular TV shows of all time.

Jennifer Aniston was arguably the most popular influencer or leader of the cast. But- without all the other cast mates, the show wouldn’t have been so ridiculously successful for so long. Think about that show without Phoebe, Ross or Chandler. This is true of the people that surround any leader. They are your co-stars. Your biggest assets. Your positive chemistry, and what you create with them is what will make your business or organization thrive.

If a leader or manager is looking for a lot of the glory, this is tough. As a leader- you should want your team getting that praise. They need to be the rock stars. Then they will produce more too. That is when a leader truly is great; when they teach others how to lead.

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Many Blessings,

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sheli  G
CILC | CMC | CEBC

www.shelig.com
Speaker
Master Certified Business Coach
World Changer Leadership & Success Coach
“It’s time to Level UP, and harness the World Changer in YOU!” ~sheli G

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Screw it Up.

Go ahead. Make mistakes. I do…a lot. It’s proof you are trying.

Sometimes when you innovate, you make mistakes. It is best to admit them quickly, and get on with improving your other innovations.
~Steve Jobs

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I am over zealous at times. Or quick to brainstorm and try new things. Fast out of the shoot perhaps, with new ideas, propositions or positions. You don’t know until you GO, right? (nod yes here 🙂 )

Turn your wounds into wisdom.
~Oprah Winfrey

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So sometimes that means I will fail. Sometimes, I will EPIC fail, (in front of a crowd) causing some sort of mess to clean up. Miscommunications, different net results than were expected…and yes- even hurt feelings can occur when we put ourselves out there. Steve Jobs, Mother Teresa, Oprah, Billy Graham, Henry Ford… they all made their share of mistakes. They are skin and blood like you and I! This helped them find the right paths to success. And it can help you too.

Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.
~Henry Ford

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Inventions, start ups, paying it forward, new systems, they all come from “crazy” initial ideas. People call it crazy because it hasn’t been done or seen before. Raw daydreams of what could be. What IS possible. The dreamers, the doers, the visionaries…they put themselves out there. So when you do that, a lot…you will have more chances to fail. BUT…

You will also have more chances to shine. Y E S!

To discover more talents and strengths. To meet more dynamic people to collaborate with in this journey. And there will be success. Lessons learned. Friends made for life. Ideas born of both the successes AND failures of yesterday, which become the staircase for tomorrows amazing moments. Those are built from the ground we lay today, one idea and a time, and one step of action and faith simultaneously.

Step out. Speak up. Make mistakes. Be yourself. Be your greatness. Own your blind spots. Evolve. CREATE.

We are not cisterns made for hoarding, we are channels made for sharing.
~Billy Graham

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If not you, then who?

If not now, then when?

I suggest YOU. I suggest NOW. SHINE.

Many Blessings,
 www.shelig.com
sheli  G
CILC | CMC | CEBC

www.shelig.com
Speaker
Master Certified Business Coach
World Changer Leadership & Success Coach
“It’s time to Level UP, and harness the World Changer in YOU!” ~sheli G

Connect with me on:
https://embracereal.wordpress.com
http://www.facebook.com/sheliGinspires
http://www.youtube.com/user/coachsheliG
http://www.linkedin.com/in/shelig
https://twitter.com/sheliGinspires
http://pinterest.com/sheligcoaching

Other blogs:

https://embracereal.wordpress.com/2013/07/01/mindtrafficjams/

https://embracereal.wordpress.com/2013/05/28/happyemployees/

https://embracereal.wordpress.com/2013/06/11/clientsintoevangelists/

5 Women Leaders Who Inspire Me

” I will not just live my life. I will not just spend my life. I will INVEST my life.” ~ Helen Keller

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Helen Keller’s almost inconceivable journey from her childhood struggles to communicate with anyone due to her many disabilities, to a woman of victory, clarity in purpose, and being the World Changer she still is globally- is in my opinion one of the greatest heroine stories of the 20th century.

Helen’s triumph as a young deaf-blind girl, with her incredible teacher Anne Sullivan mentoring her, is but the beginning of her story. Her leadership skills would be used for activism, in a time that it was very difficult for women to be respected for being outspoken, and taking on the system. She opened the gateway for not only people with disabilities to imagine miracles coming in and through their lives, but she educated those without disabilities, that it IS a disability to limit others with our judgement. She modeled to us that disabilities are just challenges, that like all of us, we can overcome with hard work and determination.

Helen pushed for epic changes in the law, and created a place in our culture for people with disabilities to move from the hidden places, to mainstream education and employment opportunities. Her advancements have helped not only those with disabilities, but have inspired women of all backgrounds and races to realize what a difference one passionate voice can make. –Great leaders harness and use their strengths, and don’t let their perceived weaknesses stop them. 

 

” Love cannot remain by itself,  it has no meaning. Love has to be put into action, and that action is SERVICE . ” ~Mother Teresa

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Mother Teresa Devoted her entire adult life to the service and care of the poor, oppressed and the dying. It seemed almost inconceivable, until she did it, with humility. She also struggled with her own dragons so to speak, as we all do. Battling Depression and loneliness, Mother Teresa still chose service to others as her ultimate goal and purpose. She became a global icon for truly selfless Christ-like service to others. She personally cared for 1000’s of sick and dying people in Calcutta, and trained countless other volunteers, staff and as many as would listen, how to do the same.  She was awarded the Nobel Peace prize in 1979. She honored others religious beliefs, while standing very firm in her own. She was known to be incredibly respectful to other cultures, races and traditions. She focused on showing others the pure and holy love of God, in big and small ways every day, until her death. –Great leaders always give more than they take.

 

“ The only tired I was, was tired of GIVING IN ” ~Rosa Parks

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Rosa Parks refused to give up her bus seat to a white man on Dec 1st 1955.  This was the beginning of what led to some of the most significant civil rights legislation of American history.
“Each person must live their life as a model for others.”~ Rosa Parks   (can I hear an AMEN here!)
Rosa was an African-American civil rights activist whom the U.S. Congress called the “Mother of the Modern-Day Civil Rights Movement”. WOW!
Her arrest and trial for this “act of civil disobedience” on Dec 1st in the refusal of giving up her seat on the bus, triggered the Montgomery Bus Boycott; one of the largest and most successful mass movements against racism and segregation in our history. This also launched the highly influential Martin Luther King, Jr., one of the promoters of the boycott, to the main-stage of the civil rights movement. Rosa’s role in history earned her an iconic status in American culture. Her life and brave, committed actions have left an enduring legacy for civil rights movements, and all women around the world. –Great leaders sacrifice and risk, to pave the way for others behind them to have more opportunities.
“No longer do you have the luxury of being a bench-warmer. Today is the day to declare and step out with your gifts and share them with the world. THIS IS IT! This is your year. This is the year that you can make a huge impact in the world.” ~Arvee Robinson
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Arvee Robinson is a Master speaker trainer and persuasive speaking coach. She teaches business owners, service professionals and entrepreneurs how to use public speaking as a marketing strategy so they can grow their business and get their message out to the world. As a high-energy motivational speaker, Arvee has shared the stage with speaking giants such as: Mark Victor Hansen, Loral Langemeier, Chris Howard, and many more. Her training and coaching programs transform ordinary business professionals to superstars in their industry.
I personally have been trained and coached by Arvee. Her passion, organization, vision and compassion make her one of the top leaders in her field today.Great leaders inspire others to do more, tell more and BE MORE.
 “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed ONLY ONE. Mary has chosen what is better.” ~ Jesus re: Mary & Martha
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The story is told in the Bible in Luke 10, of two sisters, Mary and Martha. Jesus comes to visit them, and Martha is busy with (the always endless!) household chores, while Mary sits at the feet of Jesus. Martha complains to Jesus that she’s doing all the work.  Jesus encourages her to be more like Mary.  Martha was too busy being, well… just busy. Meanwhile, Mary realized that to sit and learn at Jesus feet was far more important in that precious moment. Which would you choose. What would you choose today? –Great leaders know how to prioritize, and seize profound priceless opportunities to grow.

If you know a woman who has inspired you with her story, please comment on this blog and give her some well deserved props!

PLEASE Like, send and share this blog if it touched you. Thank you 🙂

Many Blessings,

 
sheli  G
CILC | CMC | CEBC

www.shelig.com

Certified International Business, Leadership & Life Success Coach

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EXPOSED. Opportunity, or Overwhelm?

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What opportunities should I take? AND What do I pass on?

It’s the toughest question since the recession. People still spend their money and time. Opportunities are bombarding us from every angle  more than ever. From the people around us, to our online activity, to our cell phones bringing all our contacts and options to us 24/7… it’s endless. (until you shut it DOWN) 🙂

Business owners DO still need to invest in themselves, and their businesses to adapt, and move forward at the speed of the culture and their own dreams. This will never change.

SO- where do the people you want to be like when you “grow up”, or go to your next LEVEL UP hang out? What are they doing? What is working for them? What challenges you about your business and your life right now, and who knows how to navigate that? Who has been there and has some keys?

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Forget about the places that we used to network at. (at least re-think them. ALL of them.)

Forget about business and activity that doesn’t result in either a direct deposit to your bottom line, or you truly developing as a leader and a person. Forget about the things you have always done in the past, or were committed to, or served on the board of (or committee of, yikes) … if they are not serving you anymore, or you just know it’s time for the new. Forget about places, people and events, if you leave them unmoved, unchanged, and drained.

Go where inspiration, innovation and collaboration COLLIDE… at sometimes even an alarming rate! Have some adrenaline charged fun expanding, challenging yourself and others, and hanging out with the passionate, driven people making their visions a tangible reality today. Life is urgent and precious. What legacy are you leaving behind if you drifted away in your sleep tonight?

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Start living the bucket list NOW. You were given your visions and dreams because God thought YOU were the one to set them free and see them through. Prove him right.

 

Many Blessings,
sheli  G
CILC | CMC | CEBC

www.shelig.com
International Speaker
Master Certified Business Coach
World Changer Leadership & Life Mastery Coach
“It’s time to unleash the World Changer in YOU!” ~sheli G

Connect with me on:
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http://www.facebook.com/sheliGinspires
http://www.youtube.com/user/coachsheliG
http://www.linkedin.com/in/shelig
https://twitter.com/sheliGinspires
http://pinterest.com/sheligcoaching

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