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The Explosive power of the Collective

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Mastermind Groups.

We have all heard of them. IF you have not been in a GREAT one, you are missing an incredible  amount of opportunity to expand yourself, your business, and your INCOME- in record time.

What is a Mastermind? (just a room full of superegos?)

I am glad you asked. A GOOD mastermind is not about stroking egos. (unless that is the intention of the group)

A Mastermind by definition is: a person who grows, makes or invents things, someone who has exceptional intellectual ability and originality, a person who plans and directs skillfully. In a Mastermind group or team, you simply add the collective to this, *which significantly amplifies the results. (YES!)

Collaboration is: to work jointly with others especially in an intellectual endeavor. Collaboration is the key to unlocking objective, exponential ideas, unlimited resources, power connections and critical information.

The Gathering Choose in

What’s the best Mastermind Team for me?

You deserve to be a part of a Mastermind team that has something in common with you and where you are going, or what your highest intention is. Are you just wanting a free, casual, non-accountable group? Or a higher level one where the members expect real, tangible growth? There is no right or wrong here, but there is a big difference.

There are different kinds of groups which can be brilliantly collaborative, like: Entrepreneurs, Sales, Marketing, Start Ups, Christian Business Owners, Women’s groups and Men’s groups. Sometimes the varying backgrounds can be a massive opportunity to support one another and get support, since we all know our strengths and challenges, and develop a well oiled reciprocating system that pays huge dividends.

The Leader of the Mastermind

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Listen- your Mastermind will be as good as it’s leader. Period.

The Best Mastermind groups are run by leaders who have 1) Achieved measurable, obvious success in the area they are facilitating! 2) Have a proven system in place from start to finish that efficiently guides all the brainpower in the room (otherwise it’s chaos)  3) A never-ending desire to grow themselves and 4) A desire to genuinely help their students with compassion and truth in their journey.

Objectivity

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The good news is: Mastermind groups that are working WELL are objective, and sometimes even brutally honest. The truth is, you may not always like what you hear. You may hear things like: “Your website sucks- and Aunt Margaret should NOT have created it for you.” You may hear that your power point presentation puts people to sleep. You may hear that your attire or professional appearance needs an update (asap). You may hear that you need to spend more money to make more money. In fact, the high level Mastermind groups cost significant money. AND- they are worth it.

The good news is: you DESERVE to hear the objective feedback, both nice and not, to expand and grow yourself and your income rapidly, which is why most of us are in a Mastermind group.

The other good news is: you will receive a tremendous amount of affirmation about your strengths, gifts and abilities, perhaps even in areas you did not have on your radar before!

Got Results?

It’s like a Purse (or a Murse if you are a man), YOU GET OUT OF IT WHAT YOU you YOU PUT INTO IT. Period. There is no magic pill or cliffs-notes here. If you cheat- you cheat yourself, as well as the group. So doing the risk-taking goal setting, the homework, the calls, the meetings, and spending the time, money, energy… and risking questioning everything you are currently doing- ready to let go of what you need to… all of that makes this game really work.  So it ain’t for the weary, the victims, the overly prideful or the frauds.

The Bottom Line.

IF you do all the work, and truly play to win on every level, you will be absolutely thrilled with what you get out of it. And, MORE importantly in the big picture, you will love the giving. What can you offer and give to others? You have unique skills, strengths, gifts, and experiences. In the end, we feel the best when we give to and serve others. This is still a key to why most people who we deem “successful” got where they are. It’s not all about you.

Email me if you are interested in a mastermind, we will find you a compatible one, Let’s SCALE!

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Many Blessings,
sheli  G
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Do I “Unhook” from Negative Nellies??

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In Personal/Spiritual Development Land, I hear this a lot:

“Cut negative people out of your life. You don’t need them. You cannot go where you deserve to with them in your life”

It’s a classic “Empowerment Challenge”. But it has never fully resonated with me. What about you?

Here are a few thoughts on why cutting everyone in a “negative space” out of your life may not always be best.

  • THE negative one may be a family member.
  • You may work with them, or they may be your boss!
  • They are going through a temporary rough patch.
  • When YOU are the Negative Nellie or Nelson.
  • How can we “Be the change we wish to see in the World”… if we only connect with the easy, fun, already happy ones?
  • It may be our own perception or projection, that is judging or viewing them as a negative influence.

When they are a family member.

By all means you can draw healthy boundaries. (book by Dr Cloud & Dr. Townsend)

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I am not saying roll over, or take abuse of any kind from anyone. I AM saying think about it. If you pray or meditate, do that. I did have to draw a boundary with a family member. She had been through a super hard time. But it came to a place of toxicity in her words mostly, that I had to draw a boundary and not have her around or communicate with her at all. The good news is, I made it clear that this was her choice, that if she went back to honoring our family with respect and kindness, that our relationship would be restored, and it was. Every case is different! If you are abused etc, you need professional help to navigate those choices. ( Google it ) But this is more for every day dealings, when family members are on a lesser scale of challenging or destructive. ~Calm down, get advice from a healthy person, and think about it before you take action. (* A Life Coach or Counselor is skilled in this area)

When you work with him or her. 

You have a lot at stake in this case. If you treat them in ways the company or managers don’t approve of, you may lose your job. People around you get very uncomfortable with conflict. One scenario I know was so bad, that even though BOTH sales people were top producers in the WEST, the company felt they had to choose 1 and move on, to re-build more positive energy in the workplace. Also if it’s your boss, watch out. Their ego alone, and/or their position of having more of a voice in everything than you, makes it nearly impossible to be their breakthrough buddy on “their issues”. Again, this is assuming you are right, and sometimes you may not be. SO- is it worth risking your job? If you are open to this: think about it before spouting off.  (and never spout in an email, it’s cowardly) I used to liken myself when I am really passionate to Joan of Arc, until a wise mentor reminded me that Joan was burned at the stake, at a young age. Sometimes it’s not our battle to fight. And guess what?! ~Often times there are similar people at the next job too.

Sometimes the tough space they are in is temporary.

Very often this is true. Are you going to bail the minute they are struggling? Overall- has the connection been healthy? Is this time temporary? Is there a greater window of grace they deserve from you? For most of us, tough times cycle through. ~They don’t last forever.

Remember, YOU may at some point be the “Negative Nellie” or “Nelson”.

I’ve been there. I think we all have. I am thankful for friends, family and mentors that saw me through. It’s also good to remember when we are going through Hell, keep on going until you are through. ~Don’t be abusive (verbally, physically, emotionally….) to anyone, in any way while you are in the funk.

Where does “Be the Difference..” come into play?

If you think of yourself as a spiritual or good person, then dig deep into the work of relationships. Some are easy, and some are super hard! That is the deal. If you are a leader, teacher, coach, counselor or general do-gooder…then go the extra mile. Breakthrough your own triggers, associations and shortfalls in the process. Expand. Again, I’m not advocating staying in abuse. ~I am saying that if we want to be the light in the dark, we must confront the dark and bring the light to dispel the dark. If not you, then who? If not today, then when?

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Projection, Perception and the Shadow of self.

OK I know, that is a lot of psychological words right there…but Google it 🙂 What we are struggling with in ourselves, is often what drives us crazy about others. For example: Right now, on a scale of 1-10, 1 being not very much, to 10 being totally- 100%… RATE how much do YOU trust OTHERS… ( close your eyes & just do it! )  🙂

Usually, how high you rate others, is actually how you rate YOURSELF as trustworthy. This is just 1 example. Also, the Shadow side of our psychology might suggest that what repels us from others, is something we lack, or that we need to work on in ourselves. The “Workaholic” looks down on the guy that gets enough work done in 4 days, and then goes to the beach to surf non-stop for 3 days. One possible reason is envy, which is actually just his internal signal that the Workaholic deserves joy, play and a more balanced life too, but is struggling to get there.

I suggest, as long as you’re safe, that we learn to love, work with, tolerate and mentor each other. We learn more from the challenging relationships and struggles in life than we would by ourselves, “happy” on an island. ~Let us do the work, and learn how to reach and teach everyone who is willing.

Many Blessings,
sheli  G
CILC | CMC | CEBC

www.shelig.com
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Master Certified Business Coach
World Changer Leadership & Life Mastery Coach
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“Fearless” is a buzz word

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There are many, in my humble opinion, overused words today designed like keywords, or saturated sales pitches in their very intention.

Context is King (or Queen) so I don’t want to dis anyone’s book, song, or quote. BUT, for my business, I don’t coach or consult clients or groups I speak to, to try to attain or maintain a “FEARLESS life”.

  • I think being “fearless” all or most of the time is difficult, and perhaps impossible to attain as a long term sustainable model.
  • Being “fearless” sounds good, so it sells. But can you really buy it?
  • Fear has a purpose at times, and therefore is valuable.

To many people, living a “fearless life” sounds hip. But who can say they get to a place where they never have a fear again? If my 7 year old runs into the busy street, (which he has done a few times!) it totally sends shock waves of fear throughout my body. I think every parent would agree. So- is being fearless even something I want to try to attain? Plus, the research shows: putting goals in front of people that are impossible to achieve is the most UN-motivating thing you can do. Maybe it’s not a good personal development tool, after all.

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It is true, too many people live in too much fear, too much of the time. But again, I ask if it is a campaign with any integrity; to sell something because you know it sounds fabulous to the masses- but it is perhaps impossible to truly deliver. It’s like the over processed, mega touched up photo images of models, wearing the dress that won’t look like that on me. It’s a sales pitch to the core of our emotional being. SO- what about letting our brains weigh in here, and see if it’s really possible. OR- is this another mountain top high campaign, a well written book, or charismatically delivered motivational talk? FYI- with most typical book or seminar information, only about 3% of the crowd will implement about 1% of the content delivered. (*this is why I prefer experiential education to passive education)

Healthy fear serves it’s purpose. I was dating a handsome guy in college, who was invited by a mutual friend to go on a motorcycle ride. The problem: Our friend was a crazy driver, with a crash record to prove it. They were both in shorts and tank tops on that very hot summer day. My boyfriend didn’t go, as my fears motivated a great sales pitch from me not to! The driver who had offered the ride, and his unlucky passenger, wrecked that day and survived, but with terrible road rash all over their unprotected bodies to pay for their “fun”. Fear can be the little voice inside your head of REASON that something unsafe or bad may happen, so don’t do it. Research shows most people who are about to become the victim of a crime have a “premonition” before the event that proved to come true. I say- listen to that when you hear it. Not all places, people or events are safe. Your intuition knows.

I think it can be valuable to make sure your fears are rational. Fears are like many things: they are only part of the equation. Sometimes a risk is necessary, like in starting a relationship, investment or business. Sometimes the pay-off outweighs all the potential risks and we, in spite of the fear… GO. This can be quite exhilarating! It’s a part of the natural process and it’s all good.

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I like to teach people to consider their fears, but only after they consider their dreams. Notice the costs involved. Do your research. Meditate and pray. But when it’s worth it, and all the factors have been considered, DO take healthy risks, in spite of your fears. In fact, when I do public speaking, I view my fear as sheer excitement! My heart rate goes up, I don’t know how it’s all going to play out, (every audience is SO totally different).  I move with my fear, using it to propel my passion out into the world. It is a blast to befriend your fear. And then, we can naturally, experientially learn to fear less in life. This IS very achievable. I like that.

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“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.” (when it is yours to do…)
~Eleanor Roosevelt

Many Blessings,
 Sheli  G
CILC | CMC | CEBC
www.shelig.com

Certified International Speaker, Group Transformationist, Comedian, Author 

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Valentines Day, Again

Home Depot offers some great kids crafts on Saturdays.

My kids especially enjoyed making Valentines day “in-boxes” this year! I loved the idea. I nailed them up by both of their doors, and put some Valentines in both of them several times.

As Valentines day ended, and the removing of past holiday decor came to mind… I thought; how sad! These were so cute, and such a good way to slip sweet notes in their boxes… whenever!

Then I realized, why not? Who says I can’t leave their Valentine Day boxes up all year-long? (In fact I also have a couple of rope lights from Christmas that are still up because I just like them! 🙂 )

So here’s to VALENTINES DAY is EVERYDAY. It’s a reminder to me to put encouraging, affirming notes in their boxes. They are even doing it for one another now! What a great teaching moment about loving one another. We don’t need a special holiday or reason to give the gift of a love note. We don’t need to wish someone big blessings just on a Birthday or New Years. We don’t have to wait to celebrate Jesus birth on Christmas. So away with compartmentalizing the holidays! Every day is cause for celebration, and the giving of affirming LOVE Unconditionally!

“Your heart is free, have the courage to follow it.” ~ Braveheart

“The best love is the kind that awakens the soul; that makes us reach for more, that plants the fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. That’s what I hope to give you forever.” ~ The Notebook

“If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging symbol.” ~ 1st Corinthians 13

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Many Blessings,
 
sheli  G
CILC | CMC | CEBC

www.shelig.com

Certified International Business, Leadership & Life Success Coach

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Every Life Coach needs a Life Coach

Every Life Coach needs a Life Coach…

Google CEO, Eric Schmidt on Coaching

It’s true.
Those who do Professional Certified Life, Relationship or Business coaching should have their own personal paid-for coach. (at least 1)
Why? I’m glad you asked 🙂

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Benefits of hiring a Life Coach
*You’re Invested
Whether you hire a Life Coach, Business Coach, Sports Coach, Relationship coach etc. the moment you INVEST in yourself at that level, it raises the stakes. Now you have something very measurable to lose. In our culture, we don’t like to lose, we like to succeed. So investing in ourselves gives us some equity, or “skin in the game”. Now I’m not on the bench just chatting with people about my life theoretically, hoping it will spontaneously start going better. I have a clear intention of getting better results. I have made a decision to hire someone to help me facilitate that goal. And now I have money and more importantly TIME on the line. I deserve to make this worth my while. ~Most people don’t go to that level of commitment until they are serious about their goal.

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*Proven Results
Tangible positive results are almost a guarantee when you hire a Life Coach.(almost)
The almost is the disclaimer, because you DO have to show up after you have made the decision, and paid. And after you show up, both to the appointments with your coach AND to the commitments/goals you set with your coach and yourself, you have to stay the course to make the whole deal work. ~It’s like a purse, what you put into it, you will get out of it. Go big = Get big. Pure and simple.
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New Tools
Masterminding with someone who is a professional masterminder- is truly profound. They not only know how to, they are gifted at “revelation communication”!  They are invested in you once you hire them- they know they need to make you more successful to keep their job! And the great ones are CALLED to it. Like a great teacher or author, you have to be passionate and LOVE coaching at your core. It needs to be the thing that when you can help a light go on for someone, it literally makes your soul SING. If that is the case for a coach, they will give you new enlightenment from that calling, deep inspiration to fuel your dreams, and incredible ideas and tools you didn’t have before to propel you towards your goal faster and with more measurable success. They can actually save you a lot of time, money and anxiety by helping you with your blueprint to success. Even if you’re an amazing Life or Business Coach, meet with another and they will have skills, perspectives and experiences you don’t have to pull from to make you greater. We never “arrive”. ~If we are willing, we do intentionally evolve, until our last breath.

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*Objectivity
Let’s face it- we are usually not that objective about ourselves. This can be a huge stumbling block. A professional coach has the duty to tell you what is working and not working from their perspective. They can speak into your life from a one step removed place that you simply cannot. They can say “Please don’t wear that tie, it sends a terrible message to your audience” And they don’t care that your wife gave it to you and asked you to wear it!  They can see boundary issues at work or home that are affecting your time, energy and emotional capacity. They can look at your website and tell you, “I am lost, where am I going on this web site?” Because it’s not their best friend that created the web site. Even if it’s you that created the web site, they are only invested in making you better, so they will be honest, even painfully so- to facilitate your positive growth. They will tell you, based on their experience and skills how to attract your target market, not just people like you. If you don’t have a target market yet, they will help you nail one down, again- from objectivity. If you are like me, you may have 100 amazing ideas. But having someone grill me, process me and fine tune what order those should be prioritized in is something they can do way faster than I can do for myself-period. ~Your Coach can stay focused, and not go running down bunny trails when they see something “shiny”.
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*Accountability
Half the reason, or at least a huge part of the reason coaching works is ACCOUNTABILITY. 
It’s not that you don’t have a lot of the head knowledge that the coach does. Maybe you do. Knowing it and doing it consistently are very different things. A basketball player knows how to dribble. Shoot. Run plays. But you have to show up to practice DAILY to play in the big game. You come to practice sometimes….only because you have to! You would probably rather go to a movie some days, if you are normal. But they are counting on you, and YOU are counting on you to play in the big game. And deep down you know, even on your “off” days, practice makes you better, more consistent, and bonds you to your team. No matter how good you are, you need accountability to show up and push yourself to your max daily, weekly monthly and long-term. A good coach is a huge part of what pushes us to show up and play our best, every day. ~It’s harder to break your word of honor to a coach, and a team, than to just yourself.


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I have seen far too many people in the human development industry, from counselors, to Psychologists, to Life Coaches etc. not do most of the things in their OWN lives that they preach and teach!  In fact, often times these folks rush into the intellectual book knowledge of how to help others before doing their own work on themselves. I find this to be dangerous. I don’t say this lightly, but a GOOD Life Coach has a HEAP of personal integrity! They don’t ask others to do what they are not doing or have not done themselves. They have integrity in being healthy and grounded in ALL areas of their life before they help someone clean up theirs. Now, that’s not to say they should be perfect. I certainly am not. But I have seen people who are in a shambles in their relationships, or their finances are a train-wreck, or they are terribly dishonest, and yet they rush into opportunities to tell others how to do all things well. If a Life Coach doesn’t consistently get their own help in the areas they are off-line, they are not who you want coaching you.  If they say they have it all together, all the time, they are not honest. ~Remember: A Coach can only coach you up to the level of knowledge, experience and intuition they have, and not above it.
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Michael Jordan was already the best Offensive Basketball player in the NBA. That wasn’t enough for Mike. He hired a personal defense coach to help him be the best in defense also. He knew offense was his natural niche, but he wanted to cultivate more off the chart skills, and he didn’t just keep playing the same old game to do it. He hired a specialist, and that coach helped him to prioritize those new goals in alignment with what he had already succeeded in. MJ became known after that as one of the best ALL AROUND players that ever played the game. You don’t throw out what is working, you just work on new goals while you maintain what you have already achieved. ~The most successful people in any category have coaches/mentors of their own.
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I have several paid coaches. A Speaking Coach, a Business Coach, and a Spiritual Coach. I have other mentors as well. I meet with them in person, online and by phone weekly, monthly etc. There are tangible measurable reasons hiring a LIFE COACH works. It takes you to your next “Level Up” I like to call it. ~It truly produces improved results in all the areas you focus on, and even in areas that just benefit from other areas getting into alignment.

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What do you want? What are you doing to truly cultivate what you say you want? It takes more than a good idea or rhetoric. Don’t die with the music still inside of you. Go after that dream. Don’t wait.

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Many Blessings,
 
sheli  G
CILC | CMC | CEBC

www.shelig.com

Certified International Business, Leadership & Life Success Coach

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