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Snorting Coffee

So I was getting ready to speak.

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I absolutely love to speak. And I, like most speakers, have my own ” Pre-game rituals ” if you will. You know, all those things that especially when you give a presentation you make sure that you do, to be on your “A” game, to feel really grounded and well prepared. So I did what all good speakers do: I kicked my family out of the house so I could study.  🙂  I made a fabulous cup of Joe. I hunkered down at the computer to hang out with Google and my stuff.

I took a big drink of my organic coffee with Coconut Vanilla creamer…YUM…..and then, it happened.

I got a little tickle in my throat.

A seemingly harmless, normally no big deal tickle. But, my throat decided the tickle was a terrorist, and chose to cough it out, HARD!  So I knew what I had to do…I held it in.

I had to hold it in.

I had my computer, keyboard, papers, iPhone… all in my line of fire and at high risk at this point. I had to soldier up, and hold that bad boy down….regardless. But this cough, it was relentless. Oh I held it down…BUT, I somehow snorted the coffee that was in my mouth, up my nasal passage the back way. Yes, yes it did come out my nose. Interesting sensation much.

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After the initial nasal caffeinated shock…it was funny. Very funny. I started to laugh, which made me snort again, because I am a snorter. (I just had never reverse snorted before.) I was like, “If they could only see me now; no makeup, sitting in my BSU pajamas, reverse snorting coffee…what a classy lady!!!”
It was actually a fabulous start to my morning. Laughter…it’s so incredibly important!
 

“There are a lot of performers who make people laugh. There are a lot of speakers who give solid principles for living. I want to do both.” ~Mark Gungor

Statistics show that little kids laugh 400 times a day. One study showed that adults laugh only eleven, or less.
What does Laughter do for us?
  • Boost the immune system and circulatory system
  • Enhance oxygen intake
  • Stimulate the heart and lungs
  • Relax muscles throughout the body
  • Trigger the release of endorphins (the body’s natural painkillers)
  • Ease digestion/soothes stomach aches
  • Relieve pain
  • Balance blood pressure
  • Improve mental functions (i.e., alertness, memory, creativity)
  • Improve overall attitude
  • Reduce stress/tension
  • Promote relaxation
  • Improve sleep
  • Enhance quality of life
  • Strengthen social bonds and relationships
  • Produce a general sense of well-being

I was at the Les Brown Speakers boot-camp. Les Brown is considered the Best Inspirational Speaker in the world, now that the great Zig Ziglar has passed on. He laughs so hard, SO often. You get your monies worth out of every event he puts on, just because you laugh so much and feel so good!  I noticed, as a speaker, I was holding back my laughter much of the time.  I believe it was a subconscious reaction, because my laugh is often really loud, and I snort! So when using a microphone, this is all amplified. But I realized after watching him just let it rip, that I was ripping off myself and my audience. Laughter is one of the best things ever, to relax your audience, and prepare them. Right after someone laughs, their defenses are down but for a moment in time, and you can deliver that deep thought seamlessly.

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So laugh.

Don’t take yourself so seriously. Have fun. MAKE some fun. And try snorting coffee. You and your sinuses will never be so clear.

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sheli  G
CILC | CMC | CEBC

www.shelig.com
International Speaker
Master Certified Business Coach
World Changer Leadership & Life Mastery Coach
“It’s time to unleash the World Changer in YOU!” ~sheli G


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5 Women Leaders Who Inspire Me

” I will not just live my life. I will not just spend my life. I will INVEST my life.” ~ Helen Keller

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Helen Keller’s almost inconceivable journey from her childhood struggles to communicate with anyone due to her many disabilities, to a woman of victory, clarity in purpose, and being the World Changer she still is globally- is in my opinion one of the greatest heroine stories of the 20th century.

Helen’s triumph as a young deaf-blind girl, with her incredible teacher Anne Sullivan mentoring her, is but the beginning of her story. Her leadership skills would be used for activism, in a time that it was very difficult for women to be respected for being outspoken, and taking on the system. She opened the gateway for not only people with disabilities to imagine miracles coming in and through their lives, but she educated those without disabilities, that it IS a disability to limit others with our judgement. She modeled to us that disabilities are just challenges, that like all of us, we can overcome with hard work and determination.

Helen pushed for epic changes in the law, and created a place in our culture for people with disabilities to move from the hidden places, to mainstream education and employment opportunities. Her advancements have helped not only those with disabilities, but have inspired women of all backgrounds and races to realize what a difference one passionate voice can make. –Great leaders harness and use their strengths, and don’t let their perceived weaknesses stop them. 

 

” Love cannot remain by itself,  it has no meaning. Love has to be put into action, and that action is SERVICE . ” ~Mother Teresa

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Mother Teresa Devoted her entire adult life to the service and care of the poor, oppressed and the dying. It seemed almost inconceivable, until she did it, with humility. She also struggled with her own dragons so to speak, as we all do. Battling Depression and loneliness, Mother Teresa still chose service to others as her ultimate goal and purpose. She became a global icon for truly selfless Christ-like service to others. She personally cared for 1000’s of sick and dying people in Calcutta, and trained countless other volunteers, staff and as many as would listen, how to do the same.  She was awarded the Nobel Peace prize in 1979. She honored others religious beliefs, while standing very firm in her own. She was known to be incredibly respectful to other cultures, races and traditions. She focused on showing others the pure and holy love of God, in big and small ways every day, until her death. –Great leaders always give more than they take.

 

“ The only tired I was, was tired of GIVING IN ” ~Rosa Parks

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Rosa Parks refused to give up her bus seat to a white man on Dec 1st 1955.  This was the beginning of what led to some of the most significant civil rights legislation of American history.
“Each person must live their life as a model for others.”~ Rosa Parks   (can I hear an AMEN here!)
Rosa was an African-American civil rights activist whom the U.S. Congress called the “Mother of the Modern-Day Civil Rights Movement”. WOW!
Her arrest and trial for this “act of civil disobedience” on Dec 1st in the refusal of giving up her seat on the bus, triggered the Montgomery Bus Boycott; one of the largest and most successful mass movements against racism and segregation in our history. This also launched the highly influential Martin Luther King, Jr., one of the promoters of the boycott, to the main-stage of the civil rights movement. Rosa’s role in history earned her an iconic status in American culture. Her life and brave, committed actions have left an enduring legacy for civil rights movements, and all women around the world. –Great leaders sacrifice and risk, to pave the way for others behind them to have more opportunities.
“No longer do you have the luxury of being a bench-warmer. Today is the day to declare and step out with your gifts and share them with the world. THIS IS IT! This is your year. This is the year that you can make a huge impact in the world.” ~Arvee Robinson
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Arvee Robinson is a Master speaker trainer and persuasive speaking coach. She teaches business owners, service professionals and entrepreneurs how to use public speaking as a marketing strategy so they can grow their business and get their message out to the world. As a high-energy motivational speaker, Arvee has shared the stage with speaking giants such as: Mark Victor Hansen, Loral Langemeier, Chris Howard, and many more. Her training and coaching programs transform ordinary business professionals to superstars in their industry.
I personally have been trained and coached by Arvee. Her passion, organization, vision and compassion make her one of the top leaders in her field today.Great leaders inspire others to do more, tell more and BE MORE.
 “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed ONLY ONE. Mary has chosen what is better.” ~ Jesus re: Mary & Martha
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The story is told in the Bible in Luke 10, of two sisters, Mary and Martha. Jesus comes to visit them, and Martha is busy with (the always endless!) household chores, while Mary sits at the feet of Jesus. Martha complains to Jesus that she’s doing all the work.  Jesus encourages her to be more like Mary.  Martha was too busy being, well… just busy. Meanwhile, Mary realized that to sit and learn at Jesus feet was far more important in that precious moment. Which would you choose. What would you choose today? –Great leaders know how to prioritize, and seize profound priceless opportunities to grow.

If you know a woman who has inspired you with her story, please comment on this blog and give her some well deserved props!

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Many Blessings,

 
sheli  G
CILC | CMC | CEBC

www.shelig.com

Certified International Business, Leadership & Life Success Coach

www.shelig.com

6 Signs your EGO is bigger than your MOJO

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If you’re reading this, you may actually be OK in this area. 🙂

The title of this blog alone will scare some large ego’s away. But in a culture that thrives on ego based everything…chances are we still have some work to do on this.

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6 Signs your EGO is bigger than your MOJO

  • When how you look, your reputation, your brand or business Persona is more important than making a positive difference really is. (which one do you think about or worry about more?)
  • When you are leading, teaching, coaching or speaking, and someone has a negative response to what you say, and this totally spins you personally.
  • When you are more worried about being right, than: taking a step back to look at the other persons point of view, or looking at the greater good of the whole, or having the relationship stay intact.
  • When you keep telling the same “success” stories about yourself, or things that make you look good, when you realize those are old stories and you need new ones.
  • When you speak from your head most of the time, vs. your compassion.
  • If your friends and employees were anonymously polled, would they say you had a bigger EGO? or HEART?

Goals must never be from your ego, but problems that cry for a solution.
~Robert H. Schuller

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Many Blessings,

 

sheli  G
CILC | CMC | CEBC

www.shelig.com
International Speaker
Master Certified Business Coach
World Changer Leadership & Life Mastery Coach

 

“It’s time to unleash the World Changer in YOU!” ~sheli G

Connect with me on:
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http://www.facebook.com/sheliGinspires
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“Fearless” is a buzz word

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There are many, in my humble opinion, overused words today designed like keywords, or saturated sales pitches in their very intention.

Context is King (or Queen) so I don’t want to dis anyone’s book, song, or quote. BUT, for my business, I don’t coach or consult clients or groups I speak to, to try to attain or maintain a “FEARLESS life”.

  • I think being “fearless” all or most of the time is difficult, and perhaps impossible to attain as a long term sustainable model.
  • Being “fearless” sounds good, so it sells. But can you really buy it?
  • Fear has a purpose at times, and therefore is valuable.

To many people, living a “fearless life” sounds hip. But who can say they get to a place where they never have a fear again? If my 7 year old runs into the busy street, (which he has done a few times!) it totally sends shock waves of fear throughout my body. I think every parent would agree. So- is being fearless even something I want to try to attain? Plus, the research shows: putting goals in front of people that are impossible to achieve is the most UN-motivating thing you can do. Maybe it’s not a good personal development tool, after all.

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It is true, too many people live in too much fear, too much of the time. But again, I ask if it is a campaign with any integrity; to sell something because you know it sounds fabulous to the masses- but it is perhaps impossible to truly deliver. It’s like the over processed, mega touched up photo images of models, wearing the dress that won’t look like that on me. It’s a sales pitch to the core of our emotional being. SO- what about letting our brains weigh in here, and see if it’s really possible. OR- is this another mountain top high campaign, a well written book, or charismatically delivered motivational talk? FYI- with most typical book or seminar information, only about 3% of the crowd will implement about 1% of the content delivered. (*this is why I prefer experiential education to passive education)

Healthy fear serves it’s purpose. I was dating a handsome guy in college, who was invited by a mutual friend to go on a motorcycle ride. The problem: Our friend was a crazy driver, with a crash record to prove it. They were both in shorts and tank tops on that very hot summer day. My boyfriend didn’t go, as my fears motivated a great sales pitch from me not to! The driver who had offered the ride, and his unlucky passenger, wrecked that day and survived, but with terrible road rash all over their unprotected bodies to pay for their “fun”. Fear can be the little voice inside your head of REASON that something unsafe or bad may happen, so don’t do it. Research shows most people who are about to become the victim of a crime have a “premonition” before the event that proved to come true. I say- listen to that when you hear it. Not all places, people or events are safe. Your intuition knows.

I think it can be valuable to make sure your fears are rational. Fears are like many things: they are only part of the equation. Sometimes a risk is necessary, like in starting a relationship, investment or business. Sometimes the pay-off outweighs all the potential risks and we, in spite of the fear… GO. This can be quite exhilarating! It’s a part of the natural process and it’s all good.

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I like to teach people to consider their fears, but only after they consider their dreams. Notice the costs involved. Do your research. Meditate and pray. But when it’s worth it, and all the factors have been considered, DO take healthy risks, in spite of your fears. In fact, when I do public speaking, I view my fear as sheer excitement! My heart rate goes up, I don’t know how it’s all going to play out, (every audience is SO totally different).  I move with my fear, using it to propel my passion out into the world. It is a blast to befriend your fear. And then, we can naturally, experientially learn to fear less in life. This IS very achievable. I like that.

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“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.” (when it is yours to do…)
~Eleanor Roosevelt

Many Blessings,
 Sheli  G
CILC | CMC | CEBC
www.shelig.com

Certified International Speaker, Group Transformationist, Comedian, Author 

www.shelig.com

Every Life Coach needs a Life Coach

Every Life Coach needs a Life Coach…

Google CEO, Eric Schmidt on Coaching

It’s true.
Those who do Professional Certified Life, Relationship or Business coaching should have their own personal paid-for coach. (at least 1)
Why? I’m glad you asked 🙂

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Benefits of hiring a Life Coach
*You’re Invested
Whether you hire a Life Coach, Business Coach, Sports Coach, Relationship coach etc. the moment you INVEST in yourself at that level, it raises the stakes. Now you have something very measurable to lose. In our culture, we don’t like to lose, we like to succeed. So investing in ourselves gives us some equity, or “skin in the game”. Now I’m not on the bench just chatting with people about my life theoretically, hoping it will spontaneously start going better. I have a clear intention of getting better results. I have made a decision to hire someone to help me facilitate that goal. And now I have money and more importantly TIME on the line. I deserve to make this worth my while. ~Most people don’t go to that level of commitment until they are serious about their goal.

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*Proven Results
Tangible positive results are almost a guarantee when you hire a Life Coach.(almost)
The almost is the disclaimer, because you DO have to show up after you have made the decision, and paid. And after you show up, both to the appointments with your coach AND to the commitments/goals you set with your coach and yourself, you have to stay the course to make the whole deal work. ~It’s like a purse, what you put into it, you will get out of it. Go big = Get big. Pure and simple.
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New Tools
Masterminding with someone who is a professional masterminder- is truly profound. They not only know how to, they are gifted at “revelation communication”!  They are invested in you once you hire them- they know they need to make you more successful to keep their job! And the great ones are CALLED to it. Like a great teacher or author, you have to be passionate and LOVE coaching at your core. It needs to be the thing that when you can help a light go on for someone, it literally makes your soul SING. If that is the case for a coach, they will give you new enlightenment from that calling, deep inspiration to fuel your dreams, and incredible ideas and tools you didn’t have before to propel you towards your goal faster and with more measurable success. They can actually save you a lot of time, money and anxiety by helping you with your blueprint to success. Even if you’re an amazing Life or Business Coach, meet with another and they will have skills, perspectives and experiences you don’t have to pull from to make you greater. We never “arrive”. ~If we are willing, we do intentionally evolve, until our last breath.

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*Objectivity
Let’s face it- we are usually not that objective about ourselves. This can be a huge stumbling block. A professional coach has the duty to tell you what is working and not working from their perspective. They can speak into your life from a one step removed place that you simply cannot. They can say “Please don’t wear that tie, it sends a terrible message to your audience” And they don’t care that your wife gave it to you and asked you to wear it!  They can see boundary issues at work or home that are affecting your time, energy and emotional capacity. They can look at your website and tell you, “I am lost, where am I going on this web site?” Because it’s not their best friend that created the web site. Even if it’s you that created the web site, they are only invested in making you better, so they will be honest, even painfully so- to facilitate your positive growth. They will tell you, based on their experience and skills how to attract your target market, not just people like you. If you don’t have a target market yet, they will help you nail one down, again- from objectivity. If you are like me, you may have 100 amazing ideas. But having someone grill me, process me and fine tune what order those should be prioritized in is something they can do way faster than I can do for myself-period. ~Your Coach can stay focused, and not go running down bunny trails when they see something “shiny”.
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*Accountability
Half the reason, or at least a huge part of the reason coaching works is ACCOUNTABILITY. 
It’s not that you don’t have a lot of the head knowledge that the coach does. Maybe you do. Knowing it and doing it consistently are very different things. A basketball player knows how to dribble. Shoot. Run plays. But you have to show up to practice DAILY to play in the big game. You come to practice sometimes….only because you have to! You would probably rather go to a movie some days, if you are normal. But they are counting on you, and YOU are counting on you to play in the big game. And deep down you know, even on your “off” days, practice makes you better, more consistent, and bonds you to your team. No matter how good you are, you need accountability to show up and push yourself to your max daily, weekly monthly and long-term. A good coach is a huge part of what pushes us to show up and play our best, every day. ~It’s harder to break your word of honor to a coach, and a team, than to just yourself.


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I have seen far too many people in the human development industry, from counselors, to Psychologists, to Life Coaches etc. not do most of the things in their OWN lives that they preach and teach!  In fact, often times these folks rush into the intellectual book knowledge of how to help others before doing their own work on themselves. I find this to be dangerous. I don’t say this lightly, but a GOOD Life Coach has a HEAP of personal integrity! They don’t ask others to do what they are not doing or have not done themselves. They have integrity in being healthy and grounded in ALL areas of their life before they help someone clean up theirs. Now, that’s not to say they should be perfect. I certainly am not. But I have seen people who are in a shambles in their relationships, or their finances are a train-wreck, or they are terribly dishonest, and yet they rush into opportunities to tell others how to do all things well. If a Life Coach doesn’t consistently get their own help in the areas they are off-line, they are not who you want coaching you.  If they say they have it all together, all the time, they are not honest. ~Remember: A Coach can only coach you up to the level of knowledge, experience and intuition they have, and not above it.
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Michael Jordan was already the best Offensive Basketball player in the NBA. That wasn’t enough for Mike. He hired a personal defense coach to help him be the best in defense also. He knew offense was his natural niche, but he wanted to cultivate more off the chart skills, and he didn’t just keep playing the same old game to do it. He hired a specialist, and that coach helped him to prioritize those new goals in alignment with what he had already succeeded in. MJ became known after that as one of the best ALL AROUND players that ever played the game. You don’t throw out what is working, you just work on new goals while you maintain what you have already achieved. ~The most successful people in any category have coaches/mentors of their own.
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I have several paid coaches. A Speaking Coach, a Business Coach, and a Spiritual Coach. I have other mentors as well. I meet with them in person, online and by phone weekly, monthly etc. There are tangible measurable reasons hiring a LIFE COACH works. It takes you to your next “Level Up” I like to call it. ~It truly produces improved results in all the areas you focus on, and even in areas that just benefit from other areas getting into alignment.

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What do you want? What are you doing to truly cultivate what you say you want? It takes more than a good idea or rhetoric. Don’t die with the music still inside of you. Go after that dream. Don’t wait.

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Many Blessings,
 
sheli  G
CILC | CMC | CEBC

www.shelig.com

Certified International Business, Leadership & Life Success Coach

www.shelig.com

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